On Saturday I had the privilege to attend the Desire Map Workshop hosted by the Jacksonville Women’s Business Center. I was so excited to be there that I even made a video on LinkedIn. I met many wonderful women at the workshop and learned a lot about the other opportunities in Jacksonville available to women entrepreneurs.
The full-day event gave me plenty of time to consider how my business makes me feel and how writing makes me feel. If you are unfamiliar with Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map, first a little background. Danielle wrote The Desire Map to help women work on the “inner clarity necessary to take outer action” and since then has launched a movement that includes a workbook, planner, and growing online community.
The premise of Desire Map is to identify the way you want to feel and do what it takes to achieve those feelings. For example, through the guided exercises I identified that I wanted to feel Calm, Creative, and Valuable in the personal and professional parts of my life. Common themes among the women attending included feeling free, focused, innovative, and significant. Each woman shared her story and the struggles and wins she experiences daily.
It was so moving to hear a range of emotions from such different industries and life experiences with the underlying thread returning to owning our own value and improving our community. Stacie Perron-Smith facilitated the workshop and I have to give her major credit for sharing her pet peeve: not taking action after a workshop. With that in mind, we are all extra motivated to follow-through on the intentions and goals we set in session.
How do I want to feel in my business?
I want to feel . . .
that the projects I work on matter.
that my work is valued.
that my work is interesting and inspiring and new to the world.
Below are the 5 areas of my life and my action plan for feeling my core desired feelings in each area:
Livelihood and Lifestyle
During this exercise, I noticed that I focused a lot on my home and home office. My action ties-in with Marie Kondo’s Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I have begun the process of throwing out the things which do not bring me joy and put away the possessions in the best container for each item.
Body and Wellness
As business owners, self-care can fall pretty low on the list of priorities. Recently I strained a tendon in my right wrist that gets aggravated with too much use. As a right-handed writer, even penning this blog post on paper was painful. (Typing it out on an ergonomic keyboard is slightly less painful but I do take a lot of breaks.) I have a treatment plan that includes changes to my diet as well as period of rest and some light stretches.
Creativity and Learning
On Saturday a new friend introduced me to the word “philomath” — as an eager lifelong learner, I am happy to have a specific word to describe my love of learning. Creative came up for me multiple times when I identified my Cored Desired Feelings. The inner work I have to do here relates to vulnerability. I consider myself an authentic person but I tend to avoid situations that place me in a vulnerable position. Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly is on my list of books to finish reading to help me work on that and open my heart to new ideas and opportunities.
Relationships and Society
For this section I looked at my relationships with my clients. I am grateful for clients who share their lives with me and who allow me to use the resources I need. I am grateful for a network that continues to grow. We talked a lot about gratitude during the workshop and Stacie shared her practice of sending letters to people in her own life and thanking them for help at different points, personal or business. I love that idea and plan to implement it as part of my writing time in the mornings.
Essence and Spirituality
I tend to think of myself as Switzerland when it comes to religion and spirituality; I am pretty neutral on most things. For this section I focused on the inner work I am doing to improve myself. I am grateful I am calmer now than I was in my 20’s. I know my way and the steps I want to take to achieve my goals.
On the anniversary of this workshop, I am excited to announce Content with Chrissy has grown to become This Edited Life.